A Lost Purpose

Sitting in the middle of one of the dining tables of the restaurant, she stared down at the window sill. Nothing was out of ordinary, the usual hustling of cars could be seen as the noise of crying infants filled the air but what she saw was beyond everything. She saw a film of her past, play right infront of her eyes. She thought about all those times when people made her feel like shit..more like the time when life fucked her over. About the time when she felt as if she could never stand up for herself, as if she couldn’t fight the demons hidden within her. At the time it seemed easy to simply wear a fake smile and go to school everyday, pretending as if everything was fine. As the days passed, things started getting more complicated as she further got herself tangled in the web of her thoughts. She could have talked about this to someone yet she didn’t say a word. But when she looked at the people around her, the honesty in their eyes showed the devotion they felt for her, they loved her with all her flaws. These were the people whom she could rely on, with whom she could be herself. But then why did the opinions of others matter, why did they effect her with such intensity. Maybe because she felt as if the people close to her, started questioning her traits. As if their minds had been clouded by the opinions of the people around them. She felt this sudden urge to clear things out, to set things right but all she did was stare at the frosted glass of the window, wondering at all the things that she could have done, words she could have spoken yet remained silent.

I wonder how would life be if she would have gathered up the courage to speak her mind out.

Apples, Problem-Solving

Yesterday i was lying on my couch and a thought occured to me that there are many people who don’t like eating fruits raw. Lets take apples for example, How many of u actually like eating apples raw?

Even though they are considered to be that one fruit thats universally liked by a majority of people but for all those who don’t like consuming apples raw doesn’t mean that you don’t eat that particular fruit ever again , instead you tend to find alternate ways of consuming the fruit so that you can enjoy the taste and the nutrients in it. What i mean to say is don’t run from your problems, dont let them chase you because no matter how trapped you feel in a given situation there will always be a solution to it. You’ll only have to take a deep breath and be patient while looking for answers.

It has happened to everyone of us. There is always a time in life where you feel as if everything’s going against you. It sure does get suffocated and you do feel as if locking yourself up in a room is the only option left for you.

See life doesnt come with gurantees, you just have to take a chance sometimes and like E.A. Bucchianeri said,

“Well, if it can be thought, it can be done, a problem can be overcome,”

There are a lot of people in this world who will try to show you the right way to do things but its up to you to follow their guidance blindly or stand think for a second about what YOU want in life for yourself. As i said it earlier, make your own mistakes instead of repeating the ones that have already been made before you because the point where you step out of your comfort zone, the real adventure begins.

Ps. I like getting my inspiration from fruits.

Question of the Day;

Where do you get your inspiration from?

Judging people

How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey because judging a person doesn’t define who they are as a person, it defines you instead.

It’s far to easy to pass comments on people than to actually go and talk to them. People may judge each other as someones success might remind then of your own lack of success in that particular area. You may resent their higher degree of accomplishment and then find something wrong with them in order to avoid your own feelings of inadequacy. But i believe that inspiration is a better motivator than competition, thus one might benefit more from being inspired by other people’s victories instead of wasting time finding fault in them.

“Don’t judge too harshly, for if your weaknesses were to be placed under your footsteps, most likely you would stumble and fall as well.” – Richelle E. Goodrich

Making general judgments about a person or people without evidence or much knowledge at all, which normally leads to you treating people unjustly or deframing them which is not justified in any way or form. Those who judge people don’t really consider the fact that they can gain way too much benefit if they utilize there time doing something more productive instead.

“Believe me, I know what it’s like to feel all alone…the worst kind of loneliness in the world is isolation that comes from being judged; it can make people lose their grasp on reality.” – Sienna Brook

If we stopped judging someone before we actually give them a chance to get to know them, might make this world a better place. Casting your opinion of someone on the basis of what others think is wrong. Atleast give them a chance before you actually form an opinion of their personality.

I hate to say this but no matter how loving and kind hearted a person is people will never stop speaking bitter about them. So you should simply not let this criticism and judgements bother you.

Question of the day;

How do you deal with judgment and criticism? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 👇👇

Life and Bananas

I always say, when life gives you bananas and if you peel them at the right time you will be able to gain the maximum out of it..🍌🍌 I know this probably didn’t make much sense to you but what i am trying to say is when life gives you opportunities avail them, and if made the right choice you will gain the most out of it.

How will we know what option to choose from, you may ask! . As cringy as it sounds, the answer will come from within you because no one knows you better than yourself. You know what your capable of and all the grey areas that need more of your attention.

Believe in yourself and don’t be afraid to take risks in life because if you won’t fail you won’t get the dedication to succeed. Like they say, when you fall you just get right back up and try again. So carve your own tracks rather than following the ones that have already created

Nanette Mathews says

“We’re all a beautiful, wonderful work in progress”

Just trust the process and go with the flow because all the surprises lying ahead, will surely drizzle few colours of excitement in your life.

We humans are bound to make mistakes and to eventually learn from them. So be confident in who you are as a person and your abilities to do things.

Question of the day:

How many of you actually like eating bananas??

Say no to getting bullied

Do you know, every year more than 3.2 million students in the world are overshadowed by the people who find some sort of entertainment by shattering others confidence . Some societies in the world consider these dominant figures as being “cool” in a way they can stand out of the crowd. How on earth can one become ‘cool’ by mentally or physically torturing someone? Some are bullied physically whereas some are bullied emotionally, either way its a mentally draining experience.

I, myself was a victim of this situation, a few years back. In my case, the most tragic part was that I was foreign to the idea of me getting bullied.I roamed around her like I was some sort of her dog. I guess this was because I was desperate for having friends, that I soon lost track of the position I was standing in.
Now that I think about it, it’s sort of funny and painful at the same time: funny because I actually let her bully me for 4 years and painful because no one around me help me realize what I was doing with myself. But someone once told me that “ one thing can only bother or effect you when you want it to”.

Thus, my message through this blog is, no one can bully you or dominate you until you have faith in yourself and confidence in your abilities because no one can stop you from conquering the world if you know who you really are. And the important thing to remember while being in a situation like this is: if you are being bullied then u r to also blame yourself because you don’t have the guts to stand up for yourself..
I was a coward once and I regret that but its never too late. I learned from my mistakes and made some really doop ass friends later on in life so STAND UP FOR YOURSELF and LOVE YOURSELF no matter what.

Question of the day;

Have you ever been bullied?? Share your story with us

Who runs the world; Girls Dah!!

In countries like Pakistan and India female rights have always been an understatement for everyone. A child have always been taught about Equality, Respect, Being Kind and Being Open about things, but as one grows up these lessons began to become blurry in the eyes of society for men. As in life only females are expected to abide these lessons. I ask you why? Why always we girls are expected to live our life’s under the boundaries of the society. Why are we forced to sacrifice in life. Why we females become victims of society’s pressure.

The Answer should be to blame the society completely but an honest answer will be its not completely society’s fault,it’s us that make the society as a whole. So honestly, blaming only the society is not appropriate, that’s because it’s us that actually makeup societies like these. So until we change our thinking we will never be able to make a difference.

So guys! Let’s make a change in the lives of many girls who are currently suffering from such a pressure and also change the lives for those to come. Lets show the world that we are educated by our change in thinking for others. And we are to show everyone that it’s not the words of qualification on a piece of paper that makes you qualified but its your actions and your mature thinking.

Well, treat everyone equally like Quaid-e-Azam Mohammad Ali Jinnah said that for every countries success three things our important; Equality, Unity and Discipline. Now we pakistanis do please on this saying but do not implement in our lives. We just take this as an understatement truly, yet thats why the corrupt societies like these sprung up. Right now my true emphasis is on the word “equality” that means treating everyone equally no matter whatsoever the gender, race or religion. So please treat everyone with aytmost respect and kindness as possible.

Wow! I didn’t realize that the text got so long. Anyhow it sure is an important issue that needs to be discussed more.

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Society, woh kya hai??

Why do people judge you?? What do they get out of it? Why do they always have to interfere in your life? Don’t they have other important things to do, I guess NO they don’t.

SOCIETY. Woh hai kya (what’s a society? ) Why do we have to make all our decisions in life based on the mere fact of what will people think. I mean why do we even care, its our life isn’t it. Plus life is too short to worry about that so,(as we say in Urdu) bacha jei lay apni zindagi, apni aur obviously apnay parents ki marzi sai 😉 . Because as much as I hate to admit it but 70%, okay let’s be honest 99.9% of the time they are right so there really isn’t a point to not listen to them especially when they are brown parents. Cause then us innocent little munchkins (okay, well not that innocent) don’t really have a choice warna ammi ki jooti utharnay mein zaida dair nahi lagti. ( PS ik all the brown kids can relate to this)

Think about what YOU want in life. Do what makes you happy, what makes you feel alive. Believe in yourself and surround yourself with the people you love and trust the most because these people will be the ones who would never judge you.

Teen Suicide

Depression and suicidal thoughts are two of the most frightening things a person can face in their lifetime. Unfortunately, acting on those suicidal thoughts is a far too common scenario for many across the world, including students. In fact, suicide is the second-leading cause of death for those between the ages of 15 and 18.

Nowadays, whenever things aren’t working out the way you like them too, we think that if we kill ourselves all of our grievances will be over. Let it be the issue of not doing well in school or to have some sort of a financial crises at home, jumping off of the cliff or strangling ourselves from the ceiling fan seems the most easiest way will thats because its easy to give up, and to run away from your problems. But let me at least tell you this, the path thats the easiest isn’t always the best option to take. These hardships are the things that make us who we are, these are the things that make us stronger. So man up (sorry if you’re a girl. I mean it’s just a phrase) and try to solve the problem instead of running.

Life is like a game, if you have the patience you will succeed and level up one day, but if u are to give up now, how on earth will you ever learn to get through any of the obstacles that life throws at you. I am no expert but there is always a choice, it’s just that you have to trust yourself and not give up.

I hate to say this, time really does heals everything, it gives you the patience u want and then the pain starts to fade away. You have to move on in life. I know it’s easier said than done, but at least you have to try and not let your past rule your present, and destroy your future.

I know it’s a lot easier said than done because at that time you might feel trapped, isolated. But than look at the pain and terror hidden in the eyes of your loved one. I can’t even imagine what a parent must feel, to see their child going through this pain.

Just don’t let this make you someone that you don’t deserve to be, because you know what, smiling is contagious and is not really considered a crime. Plus we are only given one life so let’s make the most from it. Please just don’t give up on your dreams that you once dreamt, don’t give up on your loved ones that easily

The Deadly Truth About Summer Vacations

Summer vacations.. are not just holidays, for some it consists of a series of emotional roller-coaster. Yeah sure summer vacations mean that there will be no school, meaning no more going to bed earlier, watching a movie marathon, going to parties, summer camps and doing all the fun activates that the world has to offer. But no one really tells us the harsh reality about summer vacations. This cruelty of life can be divided among 3 stages of life:

Well the first stage consists of you being all joyful and excited about summer vacations and then u start following your master plan.But soon you realize that all the activates in your bucket list will either require too much effort, or time to do and you being your lazy self will try to avoid all such tasks at any cost. After which you end up watching shows on the geographic channel (here is the thing I don’t want to learn, how a lion reacts when he gets jealous from some other lion coming into his territory.. I mean I have my own problems to moan about so please)

Okay so the second stage is when you realize that the holidays that were supposed to be a break free from studies and tests are now turning into an awful nightmare for you. Because apparently you are the only one not going to family summer holidays and staying at those fancy hotels and snapchatting there entire  life. And trust me their Instagram posts don’t really make you feel any better about yourself.. like how come they have their DSLR ‘s just when they need it the most, I don’t. Maybe that’s why I have such an awful Instagram wall but then who cares if u are getting straight A’s .

Well third stage is the one thing that really makes you regret having such a long summer vacations. No school, means you won’t be able to see your friends daily. You won’t be able to gossip about others and trust me no matter how annoying of a friends you have but summer holidays do make you miss being around them( PS. A message to my friends; please don’t kill me I was not referring to you when I said the annoying wala part.  All of you guys are a blessing to be around with). But like every student I wish that I could have a school life without exams, tests and early morning wake up calls. I mean that will be soo cool wouldn’t it be.

Anyhow, summer vacations have become such a boring affair for me to such an extent that now i have become that person who randomly sends memes to almost every single person i know on Facebook and now i fear that most of my friends might block me because of it. So thats where my life is pretty much at.

How did your summer holidays go, tell me in the comment section below 😊

First blog post

Through my blogs I want to create a more positive environment and help encourage others to see the inner good in yourself because there isn’t anything that you can’t achieve only if you pour your heat and dedication to it.  Not even the whole world can stop you then. Always be true to yourself and like Ellen Degeneres says ” be kind to one another”.  And respect others point of view as well because the more you listen, the more you will be able to learn.  Good luck with your life and help me spread more positivity in the world.